Arguments

24th October

I guess most who read this will have read Kita’s post.

I hate arguing, especially with Kita. I guess that’s not such a bad thing to hate.

We cuddled and made-up this morning but I still feel this tinge, a nasty edge that, I dunno, causes doubt. It’s silly I know but it’s the truth. It’s just silly emotions, flaring up and heck by the time I get home they’ll be down and all will be well with the world.

If the arguing were more often then it’d be a cause for concern but it’s not so it’s not.

I guess when two people love each other more than either of them could imagine then without being mind-readers there are bound to be things that are just got wrong, mis-communication etc. No malice intent just misunderstanding and whilst stuff like that might not make much difference at work, perhaps a little telling off or between friends who laugh it off but in a deep relationship it just hurts and seemingly escalates.

I think this is why this is so appropriate to my mood this morning and I should really learn from Ephesians 4:26-27:

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

Now I’m thinking, should I even post this? The dust settles but then, perhaps this is a good lesson for me to learn and this is just documenting it?

I don’t know, the learning continues.

Dang, hit the publish button.

Dan

2 Responses to “Arguments”

Toni
25th October 2008
11:59 am

It’s fine to post Dan – a bit of reality.

But also step back, think about what caused it to happen in the first place, what prepared the ground for the row rather than just what sparked the row off. Then think about strategies for how you might not set yourselves up for a row again.

This may or may not be news, but a husbands role is to give himself up for his wife. It’s curious how many seem to think it’s t’other way round.

Randall
26th October 2008
9:47 pm

Yup, well said Toni.

Stuff happens in relationships. Part of growing is about what happens after the stuff happens.

Just thinking of you guys today.

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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
1 Corinthians 13:4-6

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